I am Mantuana with Patricia Manley
I am Mantuana was created to give women a space where they can listen stories and lessons learnt that can inspire them to grow and become the person they want to be.Practical tips and wisdom with no filter coming from the heart always with humour and a Latina drama twist that will make you laugh and smile while feeling that you are listening your BFF over a coffee (or wine). Your host Patricia Manley is an immigrant, a neurodiverse mum, a woman in Tech, an international speaker and healthy living evangelist that has been learning through real life experience about diversity, resilience, motherhood, mind set and wellness.Always true to her roots she and her guests will share with you and how to take risk and grasp any opportunity to establish yourself as a real modern-day Mantuana
I am Mantuana with Patricia Manley
Episode 64 - I lost myself after becoming a mum
What happens after becoming a mum?
After becoming a mum, everything changes inside and outside, our mentality, body, priorities, etc. We have to start rediscovering who we are.
We are so used to living our lives as single individuals that when our children come into the world, we begin to walk a totally new and unknown path, so it is normal for us to feel lost.
In this episode, I want to help you find yourself again, find the new version of you that is even better than the old one, and help you polish it.
Grab a piece of paper and take notes. Let's start this episode and self-discovery journey together.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
[1:00] What happens after we become mums?
When our children come into the world, they don't bring a manual on motherhood with them, so it's normal for us to feel lost during this new path since we've gone through so many changes that we feel like the world is upside down. We've all been through that, don't worry, you will figure it out.
[8:14] The self-discovery stage begins.
Your personality changes, your body, and your priorities. You have to discover who you are again and feel comfortable in this new life and skin.
[13:14] We start to feel judged.
Being a mother is one of the most judged roles. Everyone has an opinion or idea of how a perfect mother should be. However, there is no perfect mother, and it is something we must understand.
FIVE TIPS TO FIND AND BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
- [16:14] Accept the new you and leave behind the old one.
The past won't come back. Focus on the future and on discovering all the wonderful new things about motherhood. Little by little, you will realize that this new version of you is really good.
- [19:22] Be proud of the new skills you have.
One of the best things about being a mother is the skills we acquire. We learn to manage time better, we develop patience, etc.
- [21:20] Make a list of things you want to improve and start working on it.
It doesn't matter if your list has a thousand things. The most important thing is to start taking action and working on it.
- [24:26] Fix the inside first.
Sometimes we put all our attention on what others see on the outside, and we forget about the inside. I know it sounds cliche but when we feel good on the inside, it is reflected on the outside.
- [28:00] Be kind to yourself.
You are already going through so many changes that can be very difficult, so be kind to yourself.
QUOTES
- When you start repairing the inside, the outside magically looks better.
- Take it one thing at a time, there's no rush.
ABOUT PATRICIA MANLEY
Patricia Manley is the brain and heart behind the LA MANTUANA brand and was lucky enough to be born in the same city as women like fashion designer Carolina Herrera, Latin-American heroine Luisa Caceres de Arismendi, and music composer Teresa Carreno. Over the years, she has always been true to her roots, taken risks, and grasped any opportunity to establish herself as a real modern-day Mantuana.
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