Free yourself from criticism and praise.
Criticism is everywhere. You can receive it from anyone, even yourself. However, the opposite happens with praise. Sometimes they are so scarce that there are people who do whatever it takes to receive one.
What is true is that each one has an effect on us. If we can't understand criticism, it can destroy our self-esteem in seconds. On the other hand, with praise, we can depend on it and seek acceptance in everything we do, to the point that if we do not receive it, we get depressed.
In this solo episode, I will guide you on how to free yourself from criticism and praise and start being yourself.
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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
[2:30] Ask yourself how many times you have felt criticized by your inner circle.
The first critics we receive in our life are from our family and friends. Although they say it from a place of love, it can hurt. Here's when a negative relationship with criticism begins.
[4:50] Why do we care so much about other people's opinions?
Well, one of the problems that most people have, including me, is that we want to be likable to others, so we prioritize their opinions over ours to establish a better relationship with them.
[6:17] Can our country of birth influence our way of thinking?
Yes. For example, in Venezuela, I grew up in a society that is too critical about how we look, behave, etc. So this led me to always worry about others' opinions and even, at one point, seek praise from others.
HOW TO BREAK FREE FROM CRITICISM AND PRAISE
[9:38] Understand what feedback is about.
First, you should know that feedback does not talk about you but about the person giving it; only take it if it comes from people who have some knowledge of the subject.
[12:34] Turn criticism into useful information.
The only thing we can take from critics is information. So listen to what they have to say, take the good, and toss the bad.
[15:50] Ask yourself what your inner wisdom would do.
Do not rush to follow the advice of others. Take some time to analyze your decisions, not because others say it suits you.
[17:06] Understand that criticism works as a mirror
When a critic hurts more than it should, it's because the person who said it exposed something we believe about ourselves. If it is true, take that criticism and use it to improve.
[23:03] Train yourself to dismiss harmful feedback.
How? Well, ask yourself if what they say about you is important or if it can positively change your life. Otherwise, get rid of it.
[24:41] Advantages and disadvantages of praise.
Receiving praise is a sign that we are doing great. However, being driven by it is not okay.
[26:11] Keep it away from affecting you.
Criticisms are just words, what matters is what you believe about yourself.
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ABOUT PATRICIA MANLEY
Patricia Manley is the brain and heart behind the LA MANTUANA brand and was lucky enough to be born in the same city as women like fashion designer Carolina Herrera, Latin-American heroine Luisa Caceres de Arismendi, and music composer Teresa Carreno. Over the years, she has always been true to her roots, taken risks, and grasped any opportunity to establish herself as a real modern-day Mantuana.
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